FAQ
What is a play party?
A play party is a gathering of kinky and kinky curious people (beginners, experts, voyeurs and exhibitionist). At these gatherings, people play together. Play in this context refers to kissing, touching, full-on sex, BDSM, role playing, and other kinky, sexually liberating shit. Play should always be done consensually.
What is The Play Party Named Desire?
Desire is the hottest, most intimate, politically conscious play party in Brooklyn for queer woman and all trans, gender queer and gender non-conforming folks of color and their queer and trans white allies. It is a relaxed home atmosphere and great vibe.
What is Afternoon Delight?
Afternoon Delight is our newest play party. This party caters to those of you who want to party, but just not too late. Its also for those of you who just like to have fun with the lights on, play sexy games and comment on great porn. This laid back party will have light snacks and heavy play. This party is ideal for you night owls who want to have sexy (play-party) fun before beginning your night out on the town.
What is PHUK IT!?
an all queer/all gender play party. This means lesbian/bi/queer women, gay/bi/queer men, trans, gender queer, gender variant, gender non-conforming, multi-gender people of color and their all queer/all gender white allies.
Who can attend Desire?
Kinky and kinky-curious queer women, gender-queer, transgender, multi-gender, gender non-conforming, gender variant People of Color and their white allies who are queer women, trans, and/or genderqueer. This party is not currently open to non-trans men but you can refer to our party called PHUK IT! Or Afternoon Delight.
Who can attend Afternoon Delight?
Kinky and kinky-curious queer women, gay and bi men, gender-queer, transgender, multi-gender, gender non-conforming, gender variant People of Color and their white allies who are queer women, trans, and/or genderqueer.
Who can attend Phuk it?
Pansexual, kinky, and/or kinky-curious queer women, queer men, bi women, bi men, straight trans, bi trans, genderqueer, transgender, multi-gender, gender non-conforming, gender variant People of Color and their white allies who are queer, trans, and/or genderqueer. Basically for queers who like to play with other queers regardless of gender ID, gender presentation or gender expression.
How can I gain access to Desire?
Just fill out the RSVP form on this website. Someone will send you a confirmation e-mail with address, directions and any pertinent reading materials to ensure comfort and respect for all who attend.
How can I gain access to Afternoon Delight?
Just fill out the RSVP form on this website. Someone will send you a confirmation e-mail with address, directions and any pertinent reading materials to ensure comfort and respect for all who attend.
How can I gain access to Phuk it?
Just fill out the RSVP form on this website. Someone will send you a confirmation e-mail with address, directions and any pertinent reading materials to ensure comfort and respect for all who attend.
When does Desire, Afternoon Delight and Phuk it! happen?
Desire, Afternoon Delight and Phuk it! are on a rotating basis, For updates on upcoming parties, sign up for the Poly Patao Yahoo group or Facebook group
When does Desire begin?
Doors open at 10:00pm
$15 before 11:00pm
$20 after 11:00pm
No entry after 12:00am
Party ends at 4:00am
Note: All new attendees MUST check into event before or by 11:30pm in order to partake in the intro session. You will not be admitted to the party otherwise.
When does Afternoon Delight begin?
Doors open at 3:00pm
$10 until 4pm
$15 after 4pm
Doors close at 4:30pm
Party ends at 9pm
Note: All new attendees MUST check into event before or by 4:30pm in order to partake in the intro session. You will not be admitted to the party otherwise.
When does Phuk it! begin?
Doors open at 10:00pm
$20 until 11pm
$25 after 11pm
No entry after 12am
Party ends at 4am
Note: All new attendees MUST check into event before or by 11:30pm in order to partake in the intro session. You will not be admitted to the party otherwise.
Where are the play parties located? How do I get there?
Once you register, you will get a confirmation email with address and directions to the party.
Why should I pay $15- 20 for The Play Party Named Desire?
Well, you usually pay $10 average to get into a non-play party and pay for drinks all night. You end up paying and average of $50-$100 on any given weekend. At Desire, you only pay once, BYOB, and get to get freaky in a safe space. What more can you ask for? Average spending for a night of sinful pleasure, $20!
Why should I pay $10-15 for Afternoon Delight?
Well, you usually pay admission average to get into a non-play party, and then you pay for drinks all throughout the day. You end up paying and average of $40-70. At Afternoon Delight, you only pay once, BYOB, and get to get freaky in a safe space. What more can you ask for? Average spending for an afternoon of sinful pleasure, $15!
Why should I pay $20-25 for PHUK IT!?
Well, you usually pay $10 average to get into a non-play party, and then you pay for drinks all night. You end up paying and average of $50-$100 on any given weekend. At Phuk it!, you only pay entrance and donate a dollar or two per drink all night. You get to get freaky in a safe space. What more can you ask for?
Is there a dress code?
No. You can wear as little as nothing or as much as you want. You can dress in character or dress up in leather. However you feel comfortable is acceptable.
What do I bring?
You can bring yourself, a play partner, your friends, oh and of course, your toys. Toys: dildos, strap-ons, vibrators, floggers, props, handcuffs, nipple clamps, etc. Phuk it! provides gloves, lube, condoms and dental dams.
What can I expect?
You can expect to have a wonderfully sexually liberating time. Whether you are and exhibitionist or voyeur, you will enjoy the free-flowing atmosphere. Phuk it! is a play party for anyone who has gone to play parties and knows the rules of consent, confidentiality, and safety.
Are beginners welcome?
I would suggest Afternoon Delight or Desire play party for beginners. Phuk it! Is for more experienced folx.
What are the rules?
First and foremost, everyone must respect everyone's sexual orientation and gender expression. Do not make any assumptions about anyone's gender or gender presentation. Best thing to do is always ask.
Additional rules:
- This is a "Closed" event, meaning that there are no In/Out Privileges after 12:00am.
- You must be at least 21years of age to attend this play party.
- No photographic or recording devices will be permitted anywhere on the property, except as provided by the host. Remember that what occurs at our parties is private, so do not discuss it with anyone who did not attend.
- Cell phones, beepers or any device that makes noise need to be shut off. There will be no phone calls in the play areas.
- A moderate consumption of alcohol is okay, as long as your behavior is not disruptive or unsafe.
- Do not mention anyone at the party to those not at the party without that person's express permission to name them.
- This event is sex-positive, meaning anything consensual is permitted.
- We highly encourage use of gloves, dams, and condoms.
- Body parts, clothing, presentation or our perception of any of these do not necessarily represent a persons gender, gender identity, gender expression, sexual orientation or play style and experience. DO NOT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS.
- Each person must pick and use a safe word chosen by them in conjunction with their play partner. This word will be used to stop any activity where either party is not comfortable with the scene.
- When there is a scene occurring, do not interrupt it.
- Do not join in scenes, even if it looks like they are free-for-all. A scene that might look to you like lots of people are joining in to pleasure or otherwise play, might in fact be pre-arranged between the players to look casual. Join in only if the players clearly beckon you in and you also consent.
- If you are uncomfortable with a scene you should simply step away from that scene. Do not infringe on the rights of others.
- You are not required to play if you don't want to. Anyone hassling anyone or making unwelcome advances will be asked to leave.
- Do not touch people's toys, floggers, etc. that are lying around without having permission.
- Most people like to be complimented on their scenes. If you like a particular top or bottom, telling them what you liked about their scene is usually well received. But wait till they are walking about and socializing again! Asking interesting how-to questions is also a good way to make friends.
- You are responsible for cleaning up your play area when you are done. This includes cleaning up and putting away any toys you have borrowed, and making sure that equipment is put back where it was when before you started using it.
- Remember that we are enacting adult fantasies, so let's have fun, but let's remember to be safe, sane and consensual.